Whats the difference between families?

Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior Response:

What do parents owe to their children? What do children owe to their parents?

     "Second, Chinese parents believe that their kids owe them everything. The reason for this is a little unclear, but it's probably a combination of Confucian filial piety and the fact that the parents have sacrificed and done so much for their children. (And it's true that Chinese mothers get in the trenches, putting in long grueling hours personally tutoring, training, interrogating and spying on their kids.) Anyway, the understanding is that Chinese children must spend their lives repaying their parents by obeying them and making them proud.

    By contrast, I don't think most Westerners have the same view of children being permanently indebted to their parents. My husband, Jed, actually has the opposite view. "Children don't choose their parents," he once said to me. "They don't even choose to be born. It's parents who foist life on their kids, so it's the parents' responsibility to provide for them. Kids don't owe their parents anything. Their duty will be to their own kids." This strikes me as a terrible deal for the Western parent." -Amy Chua

      In the Asian (Chinese) society where parents raise their children, I don't think that owe is the right word to use. Asian parents doesn't really owe their children, it would be more of a taking responsibility. The parents would rather take responsibility for giving birth to the child. For that means that they would have to take plan for the child and make them successful. It is like Asian parents would think that it would be their fault if they were not able to make their kids successful. They will feel bad themselves and that they must have done something wrong. They usually take responsibility that the child needs to do well in school and if they don't, they put let them have a tutor to improve their intelligence. Because of what the parents have done for their parents, they would ask their children to take care of them when they have become successful. This is what my parents would tell me; they tell me that I would have to take care of them and pay them back for everything they have done. I would feel like I would be paying a debt and that feeling is not so good.

As in contrast I think that Western parent think that they owe their children most of the time. In my perspective, they gets lots of love from them and get praised for everything they do. They don't really pressure their children as much, although they do want them to be more successful. Western parents in my point of view would let their children have what ever they want. Such a electronics and allowance. From my family, the parents doesn't allow their kids to choose what they want, they only can have what their parent give them. Western children are mostly spoiled from the things they get and they don't really have to owe their parents much afterwords. This is only my perspective of them, but this might be different in many families. This is just my own opinion and I am not stating that they are bad. I really admire Western families and how the parents want the kids to be more open with the society and let them choose their own decisions.