People say bullies want to be loved. In order to raise their own self-esteem, they have to lower others'. I think bullies may be treated the same way elsewhere, where they are accustomed to that kind of attitude and then learned to use it towards others. There are many reasons for bullies to want to hurt others, including staying popular, and raising self-esteem. Many dramas start with people judging each other when they know barely anything about one another. It is hard not to judge people, but we should keep an open-mind to different people.In Carly's analysis, she states that bullies also have feelings; they also want to be loved. Even though they bully others in order to raise their self-esteem, in the inside, they might feel guilty by their actions. I believe that bullies are not bad people and we should not hate on them. I think that we should talk to them and get to know them more. Bullies might have been bullied before and that's why they bully others. They don't want to get themselves hurt so they hurt others instead. They don't want to feel left out from the group and they want people to know them, such as becoming popular so that no one would hurt them. Judgement is also a problem because if we judge we will learn to exclude others.
This relates to the second rule of the ASTI constitution: Include, don't exclude. Even though everyone might hate bullies, we should try talking to them about how you feel and understand more about their feelings. We can try to change their personality, and they will soon learn that bullying can hurt others feelings. You might also help them with their problems and help them find a better solution. This also relates to building mutual respect according to the fourth rule of the ASTI constitution. If we get to know them more, we will find out that they are not that bad.
In others words, judgment always leads to ungrateful things because we mostly make wrong assumptions about others without getting to know them. I agree with Carly that we should be more open-minded. We should try to know them first before deciding if you like them or not. This relates to the third rule of the ASTI constitution: accept others for who they are. We are all different people and none of us are the same. We are unique in our own ways, and getting to know people that are different from you is more exciting that hanging around the same people everyday. Sooner or later you might learn something new about them. We should accept people for who they are because not every one is the same.
By following the ASTI constitution we will get to understand others more and not to make assumptions that are wrong. We should never judge people for who we are because how would you feel if people judge you. I think that we should think before we act and put yourseld in the postition of that person so that you could understand them.
